Point taken. You can't give in every time. If you do, you'll just be taken advantage of and the other party will start to become complacent from it. It's been one year working at the place that I am now. Regardless of how efficient I am, I am no doubt the youngest, the most junior, and at the bottom of my place. So what do you do when others request things off you? Of course you have to know that they are older and more senior than you, but often, things end up in a way such that they push some form of work to you when clearly they are being the lazy ones because it's precisely their job to do that work. What do you do? You have a choice of politely declining to accede to their request, or you can just say yes. Saying yes will do two things, although it improves their relationship with you, they are more likely to think that you can be easily taken advantage of, and of course they will do the same thing to you in the future. That and you get more work to do, which only ends up in frustration because you start wondering why did you agree to do the work in the first place.

Of course, it's also pretty hard to say no just because you are at the bottom. So what I need now, is to learn how to say no to certain requests and prevent them from taking advantage of you.

Perhaps I will take another year to learn to impose myself on those who are superior to you. Being a good leader means that there is a need to show authority when necessary, even when there are people who are higher up than yourself. (In a diplomatic way of course.)

There is still much to learn about public relations and people skills, I thought one year of experience was sufficient, how wrong I am! I've barely scratched the tip of the iceberg.

Labels: Life, Musings

|| posted by Kuan Hui