Saturday, March 21, 2015
"When human love relationships fail, they fail because they were entered into for the wrong reason. Most people enter into relationships with an eye toward what they can get out of them, rather than what they can put into them. The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you'd like to see 'show up', not what part of another you can capture and hold. It is very romantic to say that you were 'nothing' until that special other came along, but it is not true. Worse, it puts an incredible pressure on the other to be all sorts of things he or she is not. It is very romantic to say that now that your special other has entered your life, you feel complete. Yet the purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.
Relationships fail when you see them as life's grandest opportunity to create and produce the experience of your highest conceptualization of another person. Your obsession with the other is what causes relationships to fail. What is the other doing? What is the other saying? Wanting? Demanding? Expecting? It doesn't matter what the other is doing, saying, wanting, demanding, thinking, expecting, planning. It only matters what you are being in relationship to that."
- Conversations with God, Book 1 by Neale Donald Waslch || posted by Kuan Hui
Relationships fail when you see them as life's grandest opportunity to create and produce the experience of your highest conceptualization of another person. Your obsession with the other is what causes relationships to fail. What is the other doing? What is the other saying? Wanting? Demanding? Expecting? It doesn't matter what the other is doing, saying, wanting, demanding, thinking, expecting, planning. It only matters what you are being in relationship to that."
- Conversations with God, Book 1 by Neale Donald Waslch || posted by Kuan Hui
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